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So yeah it’s us again Amiah & Saaima. Welcome back to our blog.
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Its Amiah today with you and yeah Saaima did some nosing around. LOL guys.
Saaima…how do I describe her? Puff she’s someone hard to describe.
Now you gave me food for thought!
Before that, I would like to explain how I came up with this picture. Very original I know. Lol. It just so happened that I saw this pic on Pinterest and I thought of Saaima, drew it and for a finishing touch, I added her name there. In Arabic of course.
Now coming back with my side of history…
Hmm life before Saaima “dragged herself in” was just well “plain life’.
Yes, I had to live so I just lived.
Then entered Saaima. Shouldering each other and yeah guys, fighting with each other as well we discovered ourselves and lived to that passion which we both share.
Before it was a life; it is not as if I had a hermit of a life-no…I had friends, in fact; I had many friends as I was easy in making friends but later they became acquaintances or they remained just friends; class friends, break friends or working friends. They did not cross that limit and I wonder how Saaima succeeded in doing so. No offense there but maybe I had my own ideals of friendship that nobody could reach so let’s say its God’s (Allah) job.
He knows that we literally needed each other.
Alhamdulillah I can proudly say that I have Saaima as my friend, my sister, my headache, my ‘food thief’, my EUH, lets cut it.
I had friends, became close to them, but I did not have the will nor the capacity to make them stay by my side. They remained good friends. I wish I had besties such as Saaima.
Lucky are those who have more than one besties still you should know how to maintain that relationship.
…it was just life got a meaning.
There is an article that I read. Based on it, I would like to give you some tips and the reasons as to why I say that:
Do not dispute with your friend and do not be hostile to him/her.
Hostilities are bound to come in a place involving 2 persons. Giving in will not make you small. Being a good listener always lead to a good relationship.
Simple to say but not usually easy to do. We, as human beings have the tendency of imposing our opinions. You can advise but not impose.
Imam Hassan (as) Says: “Befriend people in the same manner you would like them to befriend you.”
Do not hold him in contempt nor consider him to be lower than you. Instead guard the honor of your friends during their absence.
Do not claim precedence and supremacy over him. Instead forgive the short-comings of your friends, because everyone makes mistakes in life. Be sincere.
Do not crack indecent jokes with him.
In the beginning of a new relationship, indecent jokes are not usually welcomed. As it is, you are in the phase of knowing each other and these types of jokes could wrongly be taken. There is also the fact that “first impression lasts”, So giving a bad reflect of yourself may tarnish whatever you have.
Surely friends who support you and strive to bring you closer to your God (Allah) are friends worth keeping. And we literally help each other to keep up with our motive on this earth.
Guys, you know how friendship are seen in today’s society, with the fact that drugs and peer pressure becoming way too common! You got to choose your friend wisely. You’ll know who is worth keeping and who you got to keep a distance bearing in mind that ‘You should not ,at any time, disgrace someone’. He/she is not your friend, okay fine, not everyone is meant to be your friend afterall, however just a ‘good morning/assalamualaikum’ at times means a lot to someone. If he/she is not your friend that does not mean you should look down upon him/her or bully him/her.
Why can’t we help each other to bring the best of ourselves and help your society?
Be it kids, adolescents or even grown up, if you want things to work out you gotta make some sacrifices and be ready to bear struggles. Unfortunate truth, struggles are part of our daily life.
Both partners should make an effort, not that you’ll sit and wait for things to work, well, it’ll never will!
Last but not least, here’s a saying (hadith – saying of the Holy Prophet Muhammad PBUH) to ponder upon and abide by, if you really value your relationship.
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ : إِيَّاكُمْ وَالظَّنَّ فَإِنَّ الظَّنَّ أَكْذَبُ الْحَدِيثِ وَلَا تَحَسَّسُوا وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلَا تَحَاسَدُوا وَلَا تَدَابَرُوا وَلَا تَبَاغَضُوا وَكُونُوا عِبَادَ اللَّهِ إِخْوَانًا . رواه البخاري (6064
Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the worst of false tales and do not look for the others’ faults, and do not spy on one another, and do not practice Najsh (do not cheat), and do not be jealous of one another and do not hate one another, and do not desert (stop talking to) one another. And O, Allah’s worshippers! Be brothers!”
To this comes the end of our post. Hope you’ll enjoy it and make use of the lil tips given to improve the quality of your relationship.
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Fighting till then.